|Do that with your muscles flexed!|
|I know. That is Darth Vader. He is relaxed, too.|
My kids always become better players when they learn this important lesson. They learn that it applies to their fingers and technique - tense muscles don’t move as quickly or smoothly as relaxed ones; their tongues - a thick tongue resists nimble motion; and embouchure - we can never force the reed to vibrate, but we can support it while it does.
Learning to allow things to happen instead of forcing them develops them as musicians. The same lesson lesson can help us to be better people.